New Year’s resolutions

by the YES! Staff

randomly compiled by the staff of YES! Weekly

Keith T. Barber, staff writer

What do I really, really, really want?

Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat Pray Love, shared insight into her daily routine during a recent visit to Salem College. Gilbert said that every day, she writes in her journal and asks herself two questions: 1) What do I really, really, really want? 2) What was my happiest moment today? I resolve to heed Gilbert’s advice and be diligent in keeping a daily journal. It’s a healthy practice even if you’re not a writer by trade. The “really, really, really” part of the first question helps to go deep beneath the surface of our conscious mind to plumb the depths of our heart’s desire. And the happiest moment question helps keep you in a state of gratitude, which only attracts good things into your life.

Michelle Lanteri, advertising director

First and foremost, I vow to walk my Floridian tail across the UNCG campus, in the cold, to work out at the gym. The efforts put towards exercise will be well worth the energy it will provide during the busy weeks foreseen for next year. Secondly, I vow to spend more time researching United States history to better understand how we, as Americans, found our way to our current position in time. Thirdly, I vow to see my mother in Raleigh more often; I understand that an hour and a half drive is not a valid excuse for the large gaps of time between visits.

Jordan Green, news editor

One of the less romantic aspects of my recent nuptials — at least in my wife’s opinion — is my determination to run our household like a business. We always know how much money is coming in and are setting something aside from each paycheck for maintenance costs and debt retirement. We have a small savings account for capital projects. Maybe a house. Maybe an automotive emergency, education or possibly travel abroad. The exact purpose is vague at this point, but it’s meant to provide us with some ability to maneuver. Wait a minute… this is beginning to feel like a budget for a small city.

Jessica Schell, marketing executive

This year my new years resolution is to make more of an effort to stay in touch with the people I care about. As we get older and grow up, our dreams and aspirations take our lives in different directions. Sometimes it even seems that the more responsibilities we find, the less time is available to keep up with personal relationships. With e-mail, Facebook, Skype and other technologies this resolution should be a success. This year, I’m going to take more care to keep in contact constant with those that I love, for they are the ones who make my life truly rich.

Devender Sellars, art director

I take everything too seriously, and make things overly complex when they are simple and straightforward. It adds to my general stress level and makes it harder to really let go and relax. There are solid health reasons for stress reduction, on top of it just being plain annoying. For this new year, I would like to chill out.

Go with the flow a bit more. Relax about the things I can’t control that life throws my way. The times when I am actually relaxed are rare, serene moments. And I look forward to experiencing more of them in the coming year.

Jordan Owens, creative assistant

Buy more handmade: As an artist and maker myself, I know all about the virtue of buying handmade goods crafted by local artisans and forgoing the big box superstores. I also know that it can be tough on my pocketbook to shell out the little bit of extra cash for something that isn’t mass-produced in China. My resolution this year is to be a more thoughtful consumer, and to take that extra effort to make more of my everyday purchases local or handmade.

Jordan Green, news editor

I want to renew a resolution to be more on the scene. Ubiquity is an illusion, but it’s important to show up at a friend’s event, attend holiday staff parties, last nights at a favorite bar, community meetings… I could go on. The point is to both be visible so that people can find you and talk to you, and to maintain a sense of the flavor of your city. This is a professional commitment. Of course, it has to be balanced with other important facets of life, such as taking time to have a nice dinner with the one that is dearest to your heart or recharging yourself with a long walk or a satisfying afternoon at the library.

Keith T. Barber, staff writer

Get more rest: A key component of a healthier lifestyle in 2011 is getting at least eight hours of sleep a night. Health and fitness guru Jill Coleman points out that meeting this minimum helps boost fat loss potential. In addition, getting a good night’s rest helps your mental acuity during the day. Eastern philosophers say a man is what he believes. When the brain has a chance to recover each night, and we’re allowed the chance to work out our inner conflicts through our dreams, we feel energized, enthusiastic and more optimistic about life. My nephew, Christopher, says this is his new year’s resolution, too. Although I can’t recall feeling sleep deprived as an 8-year-old, Christopher must certainly have his reasons.

Jordan Green, news editor

The quality of our local, state and national politics is comparable to a loud gnashing, and our discourse is overflowing with recrimination and bitterness. I want to dedicate myself more to identifying solutions, and spend less time fingering culprits. I know the name of the game in politics is stealthy maneuvering and blindsiding; I’m going to shoot for openness. In elections and policy votes, the game always produces winners and losers, but our cities, counties, states and our very nation either rise together or fall apart. I’ve had my share of bruised feelings when I felt politicians failed to return my calls. Also, I think I’ve developed a pretty good knack for spotting demagoguery, duplicity and division in the public arena. Still, I’m going to resist the impulse to sort people into categories of allies and adversaries, and instead recognize that everyone has a crucial stake.

Keith T. Barber, staff writer

Open my heart: 2010 was a banner year for me. My first documentary feature film, Any Given Friday, premiered at the Reynolda Film Festival at Wake Forest University in March and was an official selection of the 16 th annual Cucalorus Film Festival in Wilmington last month. Success as a filmmaker bolstered my confidence, which led to a time of renewal and rebirth. The events of the past year put me in a good place to open my heart to new relationships. With the help of a dear friend, I discovered a life-changing book entitled, Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships by John Welwood. The book offers many lessons, including one on how exploring new relationships is good exercise for your heart. By opening our hearts, we find where our trigger points lie and the areas we need to improve upon. So in 2011, I resolve to continue to make myself vulnerable and open, open, open until I touch the divine.