Letters for Feb. 27, 2008
Hatin’ on the strange
I hate how polyamory is painted as the sexed-up version of nonmonogomy [“When the sum is greater than two”; Feb. 13, 2008; by Jordan Green]. It’s not the same as swinging! It’s about love and relationships and genuine feelings and bonds. Overall, this is a terrible article and has little insight into the world of polyamory.
Was this a joke?
During the three minutes it took me to read Brian Clarey’s interview titled “Sex Therapy 101,” I screened the article about 10 times looking for a sign that this was a joke or parody. I hope it was intended that way since it was nothing more than regurgitation of sexual stereotypes about women and men.
Britton’s explanation to an already sexist question – “Why do women care so much what their men do?” – is an oversimplified biological explanation for what is also a societal issue. The idea that “Every female of every species on the planet builds a nest and want to pull [her male] in” is a ridiculous heterosexist assumption that ignores huge populations of women who either have no desire for “nest building” or “pulling a male in” or both!
Though critiquing the interview from start to finish is tempting, I think Britton’s ending remarks sum up his ignorant stance: “Most women prefer being held to having sex.” Perhaps YES! Weekly should do a survey of local area women and ask them if they prefer being held to having an orgasm. I am pretty sure you’ll find Britton’s opinion to be in the minority.
This kind of drivel promotes the idea that women are not sexual beings with a stake in their own pleasure, and that men have higher sex drives. This not only marginalizes women by telling them they shouldn’t want sex, it tells men with naturally lower sex drives that they are abnormal for wanting to cuddle with their partner instead of having sex some nights.
Disgusted with comments
Today I read your article, “Sex Therapy 101” by Brian Clarey. I am extremely disappointed that this article appears in YES! Weekly. I expect a lot more from your publication. I feel like I should have been reading this in Maxim, where I would expect to find offensive stereotypes about women. I am disgusted that Tim Britton is actually a licensed sex therapist that gives advice to real people. It’s frightening, really.
“Most women prefer being held to having sex.” Give me a break!
This guy obviously doesn’t know anything about women (or biology, or sex, or psychology). This article is simply a bunch of stereotypes about women, men, and sex and I can’t believe that YES! Weekly is presenting them as fact. Where did you find this guy, the ’50s? He doesn’t even sound like a therapist (or anyone over the age of 25): “The more women you screw…” This article is great justification for men who like to treat women like sex objects, cheat on their partners, and blame all of the problems in the bedroom on women.
Maybe you overlooked this article when it came across your desk, or maybe YES! Weekly isn’t as liberal as they pretend to be. Either way, I’m pretty sure you just lost a bunch of readers, myself included. I’m sure I just need a bubble bath though.
Oh, and you forgot about gay people, another important omission from this article. Newsflash: Not all women have sex with men and not all men have sex with women. I guess gay people aren’t an important audience for YES! Weekly. We don’t even deserve a mention, which I guess in this case is preferable.
Dear Mr. Clarey,
I wanted to say thanks for great investigative reporting on the protest petition [“A rezoning chronicle: How Greensboro lost the protest petition”; Feb. 13, 2008; by Jordan Green]. It has been a joy to read Jordan Green. Have a great week.
Keith T. Brown
New GI Bill
A delegation of veterans [recently] visited Washington to tell lawmakers one thing: Our newest generation of veterans deserves real educational benefits that make college tuition affordable.
Now is the time for Congress to take action on this, and pass a 21st-century GI Bill.
After World War II, attending college gave veterans time to readjust to civilian life and prepared them for careers as innovators and leaders. For every dollar spent on the
Servicemen’s Readjustment Act of 1944, seven went back into the economy in the form of increased productivity, consumer spending and tax revenue.
Today’s GI Bill only covers part of the costs of college. Tuitions have increased faster than inflation, and many veterans must take out student loans or forego education altogether.
In a time when we are asking so much of our armed forces, paying for college is one of the best ways to show our gratitude as a nation. Congress needs to pass a new GI Bill this year.
Quentin L. Richardson
Snubbed by Old Rebel?
In the late 1960s and early 1970s, for a period of time, my brother and I appeared on “The Old Rebel Show” on a regular basis as the Wamalu Puppeteers [“Whatever happened to the Old Rebel?”; July 18, 2007; by Billy Ingram] I was probably around 5-6 and my brother was 9-10. We did several skits using marionettes and some homemade puppets named Bumpy and George (with the help of our mom). While I greatly enjoyed appearing on the show, we have been left out of all of the official sites. I fondly remember Mr. Perry and how kind he was to every child on the show.