Move over Dalai Lama, meet Tomi Llama
“What’s Your Superpower” by Tomi Llama is a heartier, meatier chicken soup for your soul. As the masthead states, “Finding your superpower shouldn’t be your life’s work. Using it should be.”
Dr. Tomi Bryan wrote this book under the pseudonym Tomi Llama because she couldn’t find the answers to her own questions.
“How do I figure out my life’s purpose,” she said. “This book is essentially the SparkNotes of everything I discovered when I was out there doing it for myself.”
“What’s Your Superpower” focuses on how you can become more adept at dealing with an increasingly confusing world.
“In the technology age, we’ve far exceeded our internal complexity with the external complexity,” Bryan said. “When that happens you see people doing crazy things, like picking up guns and shooting up nightclubs. We’re watching unprecedented crazy stuff because our internal complexity is not sophisticated enough.”
Bryan asserts that we are bombarded daily with information but very little knowledge.
“We have to have a system, a methodology for dealing with that,” Bryan said. “My youngest son Warren is really good at saying, ‘That’s not for me.’ That’s what the ‘What’s Your Superpower’ model is all about, understanding what’s got your name on it out in the universe. So you plug into that and you don’t plug into those things that don’t belong to you.”
As for the llama metaphor, “Llamas are just magical creatures,” Bryan said. “A llama, if you put too much load on it, just sits down. It’s done. What if we had that kind of mechanism in our life, where we just said ‘That’s too much for me to bear right now I’m just not going to do that.’ Or sit down in protest like the llamas do.”
In addition to the book, a companion C.D. called “The Invitation” prompts you to tap into “childhood wounds” such as abandonment, shame, betrayal and being overwhelmed.
“What I did with ‘The Invitation’ was create a meditation process with Himalayan singing bowls that allow you to clear those childhood wounds,” she said. “They happen to us when we’re so small we don’t even realize it, we wake up and we’re 40 and that 5-year-old is still running our lives.”
Bryan said people’s fates are sealed by their behaviors and dictates their destiny.
“I say, ‘I’d rather be whole than happy’ because when you’re whole, you’re at peace about all of your choices,” she said. “You’ve made the right choices for you.”
As a systems expert, Bryan focuses on the identifiable and the quantifiable. She is hopeful for the future of the United States but said society must learn to let go to move forward.
“What we developed for the first 250 years in America is not going to take us to the next 250 years. It hurts to watch the things we love burned to the ground but I feel like we kind of have to allow it because it’s the only way a new society is going to emerge that allows us to manage the complexity.”
Bryan said when people are between what they want to rest and what they want to emerge, they can’t go backward and they can’t go forward.
“It’s why we’re seeing things like the #MeToo movement,” she said. “Power has often been about sex and women have been mostly, not always, but mostly on the receiving end of that. The white male is not going to be able to dominate anymore.”
Bryan said President Donald Trump is “the epitome of all the things that have to rest,” such as “sexual harassment, racism, mocking disabled people; all part of the old society that had to be thrown in our face for us to go, ‘No, this isn’t going to work anymore.’ I’m actually very grateful for his courage to be the head of that old system that must rest.”
What’s the takeaway for Bryan? She said it is about “stalking your longing.” She said victimhood in this country is growing. She wants to show people through her book that they are in control of themselves and their destinies.
“I want you to walk away knowing you’re the author of the story you’re writing,” she said. “It’s all about your choices, you get to pick the things that mean something to you. Know who you are. Grow more into that and clear out those childhood wounds so that you’re making decisions that are best for humanity and not you alone.”
Billy Ingram left the luxe life of Hollywood movie poster artist to starve as a writer in Greensboro.