Robin White Star on ‘soul calling’ one’s life partner
Robin White Star, the founder of Winston-Salem’s Flower Eagle Medicine Lodge, wants to introduce you to the love of your life before you actually meet that person.
On Valentine’s Day, White Star will appear at Scuppernong Books in Greensboro at 7 p.m. She will explain what she describes as a Native American Ceremony that people can use to call their future partner into their life for “an authentic, loving relationship” and will sign copies of her book, Calling From The Heart: An Invitation To Your Soul Companion.
She said she intends to share her story of how, under the guidance of the man she called “Cherokee Elder Will Rockingbear,” she used the “Soul Calling Ceremony” to bring her husband, Subash Shah into her life. She will also describe how she has used this technique over the past 17 years to help many others find their life partners.
In a recent Skype interview, I asked White Star to explain the Calling Ceremony. She described it as a shamanic ritual “where you work with magnetizing a beloved or Soul Companion to come into your life.”
She explained that there’s a good deal of mental preparation and commitment that goes into it. “You want to be clear about who you perceive yourself to be and who you want to be in a relationship with and what kind of relationship you want to be in.” This mental preparation then culminates in a ceremony “where the person sits with a fire and the shaman and then, through those shamanic techniques, actually pulls the person that fits all those parameters to sit energetically on the other side of the fire.”
She explained that, by “energetically,” she means that one first meets one’s partner as energy before meeting them physically. “So when you meet physically, you already know each other. You’ve been introduced. You’ve been introduced and have already made some reciprocal commitments to one another.”
She said when she met her husband, she had been single for almost 20 years. “And then I did this Calling Ceremony with Rockingbear in January of 2000 and met Subash after Thanksgiving of that year.”
She said that it happened online, and shouldn’t have happened at all, as she lived in Asheville and Subash lived in Winston-Salem. Both had restricted their search parameters to their respective communities. “What’s kind of fun,” she said, “ is that I was getting rather impatient and during a pipe ceremony where you send your prayers up to Great Spirit, I said, Spirit, I wish he would hurry up!”
That, she said, was the beginning of November. “And then on Thanksgiving day, I looked online before going over to friends for lunch.” She explained that Subash was searching within his own area code, but that her profile had somehow briefly popped up on his screen. It then disappeared, but Subash looked up the Asheville area code and found her profile.
She said that the way she first met her mentor Rockingbear, whose teachings brought her to North Carolina from Texas, was just as mystical. “I had begun to incorporate Native teachings, drumming for people to dream, in courses I was teaching at the Jung Center in Houston.” During drum sessions, “mountains started coming to me.” She explained that visions of mountains “would show up in my inner eye space and say come live with us!” She didn’t know where the mountains in her vision were. “I also didn’t know at that point I could just ask them.”
But then one day she saw The Last of Mohicans, shot in Western North Carolina, and recognized the mountains from her vision. She moved from Texas to the Hendersonville area at the end of 1995. Shortly after that, she met Will Rockingbear. “I went to an open house at his lodge,” she said. When he announced that he had openings in some of his circles, she knew right away that she wanted to study with him, as “I’d been calling from my heart for Native teaching.” This, she said, began her 17-year apprenticeship with Rockingbear.
Now in her 60s, White Star has been lecturing and teaching since the age of 17 when she was in training with the Inner Peace Movement. That lifelong training, she said, has helped her in her quest to share what she learned about calling a “Soul Companion” from Rockingbear. She urged interested singles to “embark on this journey,” adding “it’s dangerous work – you could end up happy!”
Ian McDowell is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of.